I can handle the guilt. I know what obesity does to cats, and I don't want Duzie to go there. My trick is to show him the stuff he likes (like cream) mixed with the stuff he doesn't (already mixed in coffee). Greg's still working past the guilt, but once the cat learns to associate the sound of coffeemaking with the nasty coffee in the cup Greg offers him, we'll be fine.
Hugs and crossed fingers on all your family and health stuff,
Jean Marie